Asking the Right Questions (painful though they be)2
Here at Bridgeway we strongly urge all our people to become a member of what we call D-Groups. These are discipleship groups, comprised of 2-4 people of the same gender. One purpose, among others, is that the members will encourage one another in the pursuit of holiness and hold each other accountable to godly standards of conduct. One of the more helpful ways of doing this is by asking the right questions. Here are a few examples.
What specific things are you doing on a regular basis to help your wife/husband flourish spiritually?
As you contemplate your immediate future, what do you most want to see happen? What do you most fear or worry about losing?
If you could change one thing about yourself right now, what would it be? I’m not asking what you think you ought to change or what you think the Bible or some other individual says should change. In complete honesty, what do you wish could change (even if it’s not the most spiritual thing in the world!). Why?
When you are depressed or bitter or angry or frustrated, to what or to whom do you typically turn first for comfort?
What experience in life makes you feel the most significant? Or again, when do you feel valuable and life seems meaningful?
Who is there in your life that you find yourself incapable (or unwilling) to forgive? What did they do? What prevents you from forgiving them according to Scriptural guidelines?
What doctrinal truth in Scripture do you struggle most to believe? In what ways does your doubt regarding this biblical truth affect your life and your relationship with God?
What have you read lately in God’s Word that has served most to bring conviction to your heart? What have you read that has been the greatest encouragement to you?
What or who in your life is the greatest obstacle to spiritual growth and your passionate pursuit of God?
What is the greatest obstacle in your life to the pursuit of that ministry or mission to which you believe God has called you?
What are the most severe and appealing temptations to sin that you currently encounter? How are you fighting to resist them and to whom are you accountable in the process?
These are only a few of the ways that we can “exhort one another every day, as long as it is called ‘today,’ that none” of us “may be hardened by the deceitfulness of sin” (Heb. 3:13).